 What is Sexological Bodywork?
One of the most common questions I get when I'm speaking with clients is
about Sexological Bodywork. So, I thought I'd use this newsletter to help
you know more about this new profession.
Sexological Bodywork is a hands on, body based instructional method to help you
learn more about your erotic self. This instruction is done over a series of
5 to 8 sessions. Each person's sessions are unique and focused on specific
concerns.
Sexological Bodywork was developed by Joseph Kramer, PhD from his
experience in founding the Body Electric School. We are trained and
certified by the Institute for the Advance Study of Human Sexuality in San
Francisco.
Why?
Are you happy with your erotic life? Have you experienced truly being in
erotic bliss? Do you experience blocks or obstacles to erotic ecstasy? Do
you experience shame or guilt after erotic experiences? Are you happy with
your body? Do you feel stuck in repeating erotic patterns?
These are some of the questions that Sexological Bodywork can address.
As we are growing up, we receive many lessons from parents, teachers, and
other elders. What is usually missing though is training on erotic pleasure.
Over time, blockages can occur. These blockages can interfere with complete
erotic pleasure. Sexological Bodywork is a way to re-train your body and
begin removing blockages.
What Happens?
The first step is to spend some time chatting to be clear on your learning objectives.
After this initial conversation I'll propose a series of sessions to address
your specific concerns. These sessions may include conscious breathwork,
Taoist Erotic Massage, anal massage or masturbation coaching. The
possibilities are limitless: I've gone toy shopping with clients, drawn
erotic pictures and done many exercises in front of mirrors.
Some of the work we do is in person. Other exercises are offered as
homework assignments that we'll talk about afterwards.
Breathwork is the foundation of all erotic coaching. For many of us the
first response we have to increasing erotic energy is to stop breathing!
This creates holding patterns in the body that can prevent us from fully
experiencing our erotic pleasure. I incorporate breathwork into all
Sexological Bodywork sessions to help you cultivate that erotic energy and
move it throughout your body.
So many men think that erotic play always ends in reaching ejaculation.
We can spend so much time and energy focused on the destination that we
forget how beautiful the journey can be. Sexual theory often discusses two
types of erotic energy: excitement and enjoyment. Most of us are familiar
with excitement - that continual increase in pleasure leading to ejaculation.
Enjoyment is a constant state of experiencing erotic pleasure. Enjoyment,
unlike excitement, can last a very long time and doesn't have to lead to
ejaculation. Taoist Erotic Massage is a way to introduce your body to the
incredible pleasure that you can
experience from enjoyment.
The anus is a source of great pleasure. It can also be a place of
apprehension or shame. During Sexological Bodywork we can explore pleasure
from the anus in a very protective and safe way. Through breathwork,
coaching and massage we can explore anal pleasure. Many men are surprised
how much pleasure they can experience from an external anal massage -
without any penetration. The prostate is also a place of great pleasure. I
help to create a safe space to help men connect with anal pleasure. I have also worked with men on anal hygiene -
including detailed instruction on anal cleaning techniques.
 Masturbation
coaching is intended to help you reach new heights of ecstasy from
self-pleasuring. Most of us learned about masturbation when we were much
younger but haven't changed the way we masturbate much since then.
Masturbation coaching helps you pay full attention to what you are doing
while pleasuring yourself; waking up your entire body to its full erotic
potential. It can help you restore the natural connection between your
genitals and your heart. Engaging your entire body - not just your penis.
Every man is capable of inducing erotic trance states - states that quiet
the noisy mind and just allow you to simply experience pleasure without
guilt or shame. But many men continue to feel guilt, shame or at least
embarrassment about how much they love masturbating. Therefore masturbation
is kept hidden and practiced furtively. This usually prevents the process
from becoming deeply rewarding and nourishing. In fact, most men get stuck
in a repetitive and predictable habit - often learned at a young age - of
merely relieving sexual tension. Masturbation coaching gives men the
opportunity to learn enhanced masturbatory skills and experience profound
pleasure in their bodies with a qualified and supportive coach.
Honoring Intentions
A crucial part of Sexological Bodywork is the value of intentions and
boundaries. Before we begin we'll be sure to talk about your boundaries. I
won't ask you to do anything beyond your boundaries, but I may invite you to
talk a bit about those boundaries.
Sexological Bodyworkers acknowledge the human longing for connection, we
also recognize the value of professional distance. While I share authentic
intimacy, our sessions will not fulfill desires for sexual connection. I do
not act as a surrogate partner. Complete confidentiality is assured.
If you have additional questions or would like to see if this work can
help you I would be happy to chat with you more about this important work.
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